Frieda Constance Longdue (Scardino)
Passed away peacefully in her home on September 25, 2025, at age 85.
Born in Rochester, NY on December 10, 1939. Frieda was a loving wife, mother, grandmother, sister, and aunt.
Predeceased by her husband of 54 years, Robert Longdue and parents, Rosario and Prospera (Petitti) Scardino.
Survived by her daughters Valerie and Janice Longdue; grandchildren Heather Studley, Casey Freas and Jessica (Cody) Fuller; great-grandson Rhett Fuller; brother Charles (Mary Ann) Scardino; niece Carrie (Greg) Seitz; nephew Ross (Ania) Scardino; grand-nephew Charles Seitz; and many cousins and friends (particularly her poker gal pals).
Frieda graduated from Benjamin Franklin HS in 1958. She directly was hired by Eastman Kodak’s Distillation Products Industries as a secretary. She married Bob in 1963 and left DPI in 1968 to raise their two daughters. She returned in 1980 to the work force part-time in retail for McCundy’s and Waterbed World. In 1990, Frieda was employed as an assistant to the Registrar of Rochester Museum & Science Center and retired in 2001. Bob & she traveled extensively throughout the USA; cruised to the Bahamas, Bermuda, Mexico, and Central America; toured the entire western coast of Italy and the island of Sicily.
Favorite pastimes were spending summers with Bob in the Thousand Islands, reading, going to movies, playing poker and visiting local casinos. On one of their long walks, Bob & Frieda came upon a tombstone in a cemetery inscribed with a quote that struct a cord with Frieda; “What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us” by Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Frieda loved Josh Allen, card games, getting her hair done weekly, and cooking for her family. She loved living at Chapel Oaks and her friends there.
At her request, no prior calling hours. Family and friends are invited to attend her Funeral Mass on Thursday, October 2nd at 10 AM at St. Cecilia Church. Interment Holy Sepulchre Cemetery.
Donations may be made in her memory to Golisano Children’s Hospital.
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Dearest Cousins
As we grieve Frieda’s passing prayers are being offered continuously for Frieda, and all of us, her extended family,.
I have beautiful, precious memories of Frieda from my childhood. Her kindness and love were always available to me like that of a big sister.
Frieda’s passage is a profound loss for all of her family and many friends. I am forever grateful for the love of Frieda, Aunt Prosper and Uncle Ross and our dear Cousin Charles (Chuckie) who now carries the family torch. Frieda’s love will sustain us always.
I have wonderful beautiful memories of Frieda from a very early age. When Frieda married Bob that love grew even more.
This sadly is a time to mourn and we embrace that knowing Frieda is now with God, all the angels and saints and her “Beloveds” who have preceded her.
I will always miss Frieda, yet I take comfort that she resides now and always in my heart and the hearts of those who loved her.
Beautifully said Nancy 🥲❤️🙏
We each hold our own personal and treasured memories of our dear cousin. Bob and Frieda would often ask me to babysit Valerie and Janice…at the end of their date night, she would arrive home and ask me me why I didn’t eat the snacks she would leave out for me. I would politely say I wasn’t hungry…the real reason was ,that my mother told me not to touch anything and be respectful in their home. Of course this went for all my cousins I babysit for. Frieda had such a fun personality and you couldn’t help but be drawn to her. She was an excellent cook, and I always looked forward to family picnics because I knew she was bringing something good. There are many memories that all her friends and family have but mine will be of her love, kindness and zest for life. I will miss you Frieda. ❤️🙏
Freida, Thank you for all your love, kindness and generosity throughout your life. I will never forget at one of our Ellison Park family picnics how you came to my defense at the poker table. I must’ve been 18 years old thought I could beat the old timers but not really knowing the game well it was a losing battle until you came and sat next to me and gave me guidance. Until that point my loose change had shrunk into a small pile but shortly after that hand after hand kept coming my way with your loving guidance next to me and before long the old timers were all upset and most likely throwing daggers at you with their looks for helping me lol. You basically told them “stop your whining” lol. I will never forget that day! But most of all, thank you for being my godmother. I couldn’t have asked for a better person to take that role! You will be sadly missed but never forgotten! I love you Freida, may you rest in peace and celebrate your arrival into heaven back together with your husband Bob and your parents. Give them all a hug from me and give your dad a kiss from me, I’m sure he’ll tell you “men don’t kiss” ❤️🙏❤️🙏
Dear Val and family,
I am so sorry to hear you lost your mom.
No matter the age, it is do hard to lose mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you all Erika❤️
Frieda, you were such a special part of the entire Scardino family. Your loving and giving ways will always be cherished and deeply missed. Your laughter will always remain in my heart and couldn’t have asked for a more loving Godmother. You will be missed but never forgotten. Rest in peace my dear cousin, all our love John & Kathy. 🙏😢❤️
Freida was our neighbor for 20+ years. We could never have had a better neighbor.